MyTruth is My Rejection
I spend most of my time planning for later. I try to make sure everything is secure for later. Fear is the reason for this. The fear of not having what I need. As a child if the lights got cut off it was nothing I could do but sit in the dark until my mom figured out a way to get the lights back on. I remember feeling helpless because I was not in a position to help. Those days without lights, gas and a telephone has taken a toll on me. I think about all possibilities of what can happen and when. Fear leads this frame of mind; fear of being without, fear of struggling, fear of going hungry. When we take a deep look at the cards life has dealt us it really shapes you for who you are today, but how do we alleviate fear? Recognizing fear is how you defeat fear, but most of us live off impulse and ignore the cause and effect of our actions and therefore we continue to have a bombshell waiting for us around the corner. Cause and effect is not a rule that should ever be ignored, this rule is as important as one having faith in God or religion. Cause and effect brings balance, but we spend most of our time trying to ignore this rule, because of our own desires. Unfortunately our desires are man-made and superficial, the universe doesn’t know what money is or what cars, clothes or a house is. The balance in life is simply for the greater good. That means if our actions are not to move us or our children forward we will find ourselves chasing something that is not there. Even though we know our choices may work against us later we still continue to make the wrong choice. I guess the phrase “Laugh now. Cry later” holds a lot of weight because it’s very true.
Fear of success, fear of love, fear of being loved, fear of being alone. If you fear something, most of the time you will become a slave to that particular fear, simply because you spend most of your life making decisions to avoid the fear instead of making the decision to move past the fear or challenge it. For example, I free myself of judgment by simply not caring if I’m judged. That is what gives me the heart to write my articles and say what I want. I usually get two reactions, love and hate which equals truth and lies. I understand that people are simply uncomfortable with the truth out of fear, but I continue to free myself by challenging my fear and writing my truth. In return I get hate mail or nasty phone calls which confirm what I’ve been saying “Cause and Effect.” So as I try to bring truth through my words it brings dislike and hate among me, even from my family and the mother of my children.
There is another term that is true, “Ignorance is Bliss.” Ignorance is easy. All we have to do is pretend not to see, listen or hear; let’s all walk around and be oblivious to everything around us. Let us continue to get abused by the next human being: your boss or your boyfriend, girlfriend, wife, husband, uncle, kids, baby momma, baby daddy; every person you come into contact with every day who doesn’t seek truth, but only seeks fear and how to avoid it. The mere presence of truth can make any of us uncomfortable. When someone walks in a room that is confident, that makes the average person uncomfortable, but we rationalize and think the person is arrogant simply because they walked in a room confident and focused. We prefer for someone to walk in a room with a smile on their face with that “Will you be my friend look” because that is what makes us feel better about ourselves, makes us feel dominate. This is why a smile, in most cases, can be used as a defensive mechanism. This is not to say all people are like this, but usually a person who walks in a room with a smile is saying “I want to fit in.” “I am a nice person.” Now the question is: Is this person as nice as the smile on his/her face? When does the mask come off? We all fall into this trap, because it’s easier for us to approach someone who has a smile than the one who doesn’t , but in my opinion the person who doesn’t is probably the person who is most truthful and he/she knows a smile doesn’t make them who they are.
The Point ↓
If you have friends that you never have disagreements with, maybe you should start looking over your shoulder. If you’ve lost friends because of a disagreement, maybe they’re the ones who walked in a room with a smile on their face.
Let truth in. Do not make choices based on society or pressure. Seek out the truth. What you see and what you hear are two different things. There is truth in rejection and lies in acceptance. You have to decide which is more important to you.
October 27, 2010 at 2:58 am
“Truth is the light of the world”. Thank you for being a beacon in the darkness and the truth will set us free.
October 26, 2010 at 10:54 pm
Thanks for this, D.
The light came on for me…nothing like clarity.
October 11, 2010 at 1:52 pm
I’m moved by this article simply because the truth is the most powerful and the most painful entity in existance. I have tried to be honest but in the end lied to preserve my “facade” to the outside world. I have accepted others’ lies because it was easier than hearing the truth or calling out their bs. I have created pain for myself and those I love dearest because of the fear of being alone or of being successful and not knowing where that success may lead or how much responsibility that success would require or of them not loving me for who I am. Over the past few months the truth has been banging on my door and has now kicked it in. It hurts but it’s the truth so I embrace it with faint arms. Thank you for calling us to seek the truth. The truth will set you free. It’s up to you to obtain and maintain the freedom. Peace
October 9, 2010 at 3:51 am
In order to seek the truth, u have 2 understand that u r living a lie. And most people, unfortunately, don’t know that. So, its difficult 2 come into the light if u don’t know u r in the dark. Paul Laurence Dunbar wrote a poem called “We Wear The Mask”. The opening lines still ring true today…..”We wear the mask that grins and lies, it hides our cheecks and shades our eyes…”. And a lot of us wear the mask. Great article D-Revolution….
October 9, 2010 at 1:09 am
Everybody has a “truth”. My truth may not be your truth. I prefer to use the word integrity. When we walk according to our own “truth” then I believe we are in integrity with ourselves. No matter who thinks what and no matter how that “truth” is judged from others. The problem is, most people don’t really have a lot of tolerance for other people’s truths. So there is judgment and the akward not fitting in thing. It’s difficult at best for most people to have the courage to stand up for their “truth”. It’s just easier to go along with the crowd…back to the fear thing. I say live and let live. Most people have just not come into self awareness where there’s a maturity to accept that people change when they change, they accept what they want to accept and they react according to their own confidence and/or fears. I’m proud of the fact that you can confidently take a stand for your truth. I hope there is room to allow others to grow at their own pace as they come closer to theirs. Good article.